"If you are seeking guidance with the saying of kaddish, then I assume you are in pain.The loss of someone you love, someone central to your life, touches and impacts you in a way you have never experienced before.I only hope that in some small way, this attempt to guide you through the saying of kaddish, helps you in the process of mourning, of finding comfort and even of finding meaning in this most difficult hour. "
"Before beginning, I want to share with you a sense of what you are doing—and what you are achieving when you say kaddish. After that I will tell you about the meaning of the opening lines of kadish and then we will say the kaddish together."
"Each of us is the synthesis of a body and a soul. We are both physical and spiritual beings. The body is our outer world—our more superficial reality—the soul is our inner world. The soul is the essence of who we are. As children, we are an extension of our parents: physically and spiritually. It’s critical that you understand the following: Kaddish is not a prayer FOR someone who has passed away. Kaddish is a prayer for the living that can achieve spiritual benefit for someone who has passed away.You see—Judaism understands that the world we live in, the physical world, is part of a bigger reality. After death, when the soul leaves the body, it enters another realm: The world of pure spirituality. A world where the soul lives in the clear presence of G-d. In the next world, the spiritual world, the souls ability to perceive and connect to G-d, is determined by how that person lived in this world, while he or she was a body and a soul."
"Once a soul is in the next world, it can no longer achieve, rather, it can only be. However, you, as a living extension of someone in the next world, can contribute to the quality of a souls experience of G-d in the next world."
"As someone who will say kadish, you are standing in a very lonely place. At the same time, you are standing in the midst of the jewish community. You are not alone. With kaddish you are saying—despite the pain, despite how lost and shaken you feel, nonetheless you will acknowledge that there is a deeper, underlying reality and meaning to life. We may not understand all that happens, but as jews, we always acknowledge that G-d is an ever present reality—and that this transcendent reality is ever present—even in the darkest moments."
"Lets look at the first 2 lines of the kaddish, and then I will recite the entire kaddish slowly so that you can listen and learn to say it yourself."